Over the weekend I was at a social gathering and the host introduced my wife and I to 8 others we were meeting for the first time. When I was asked about my profession, the subject matter turned to funerals. After finding out I was in the funeral business, almost in unison, they exclaimed “I want the cheapest funeral possible” followed by sentiments of disdain from recent experiences of burying their parents. Interestingly, the people at the table were the “target” Baby Boomers (I’m in this category, however these folks are about 15 years my senior) that are supposed to want “so much more” for their life celebration and these folks were not anywhere near financially challenged.
So I asked them what they thought the “cheapest funeral” would be in terms of cost and service. One lady shared that she just buried her husband last year and she hated the entire process. She said that going to the funeral home with her kids and in her words “consternation of dealing with those people” left a bad taste in her mouth. She said that she told her kids that in no way shape or form does she want them to go through the same process….”I told them to just cremate me and have a party at the lake house…I paid over $12,000 for the whole thing and I’ll haunt my kids if they waste that much on me.”
Another lady said “I don’t want anyone looking at me dead in a casket” followed by “just cremate me…what does that cost about $1,000.” I told her in this particular area that cremation is anywhere from $1600 to about $3500. With that, more discussion ensued around cremation. One interesting point a gentleman made was that he had been considering selling his burial family burial plots. “I don’t like visiting a cemetery and I know my kids don’t and won’t…why waste the money?” From there went the discussion of where cremated remains should rest…from putting them in the lake to scattering in the garden (I suggested they research viable locations before making a decision). I shifted the discussion to what type of service…almost all said that they don’t want to be in a church or a funeral home. From the lake house to the country club, the general consensus was to have some sort of party, but nothing dour for this group.
I was frankly surprised at the positions of those at the table. These were relatively affluent people that had defined opinions from recent experiences. Their candid sharing of thoughts was interesting…what are yours about the conversation? Cheers y’all! #thefuneralcommander